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This week we welcome Fredrica Singletary, Mercy’s Program Director in Lincoln, CA.  Fredrica expands on “renewing the mind,” from the Keys to Freedom study and how it has been a significant part of her life. Thank you, Fredrica, for sharing!


Being ourselves seems so simple, but it is very hard when we do not know what makes us….us. In the past it was hard for me to be myself until I learned who I truly am in Christ. I know that it sounds strange, but we have to learn who God says we are so we can be the best versions of ourselves.

To be honest, the ONLY reason that I was able to really learn who I am is because of my personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Whether or not you know Him well, I will share with you how He helped me and how He can help you understand your true identity and purpose too.

I’m not quite sure when and how it happened, but at a young age, I began to believe that I was not smart or pretty. Family and friends tried to encourage me by telling me how intelligent I was or how cute I looked, but their words would immediately go in one ear and out the other.

Without realizing it, the lies that I was not pretty or smart consumed my identity. I began to work extremely hard in school to prove that I was intelligent. As far as not being pretty, I convinced myself that my appearance did not matter and if I stayed to myself, maybe people would not remind me that I was not pretty enough, so I became extremely shy.

What I did not know was that this cycle of believing lies began with Eve (the first woman ever created): But the serpent said to the woman, You shall not surely die, For God knows that in the day you eat of {the tree of the knowledge of good and evil} your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing the difference between good and evil and blessing and calamity (Genesis 3:5 NIV).”

This was the first lie ever told. Satan made a “suggestion” to Eve and she began to believe the lie that she was not like God. This is just CRAZY because the Bible says, “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them (Genesis 1:27 NIV).” Satan planted the lie that Eve was not like God when the truth was that SHE WAS ALREADY JUST LIKE HIM… #thetruth. Satan’s goal is to do the same with us.

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full (John 10:10 NIV). The enemy exists to steal our joy, kill our dreams, and destroy our God-given identity. Thankfully, Jesus Christ exists to give us the best life possible – despite the fact that the enemy wants to make us feel and believe that we are inferior. Instead of letting lies take control of your life like I did, you can confront lies with truth.

Take a look at John 8:31-32 NIV:  …Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples.  Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” List the top 2 or 3 lies that you currently believe, and then list some truths. You can ask the Holy Spirit to show you the truth to counteract the lies. You can also refer to Mercy’s Who I Am In Christ statements to help you find some truth.



Lies Truth
I am not pretty. I am beautiful – Psalm 149:4
I’m too shy. I am confident and fearless – 2 Timothy 1:7


Once you have identified the lies and truths. Take a moment to ask the Lord to break the lies and replace them with truth with this simple prayer:

Dear Jesus, I choose to break the lie that _______________ and ask you to replace it with your truth that says ________________. Please place that truth deeply in my heart, in my mind and in my identity. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Now that you have confronted some of the lies that you believe about yourself, hopefully you have a new sense of freedom. When I recognized that I was beautiful and intelligent through my identity in Christ, it gave me a sense of peace and confidence that no one has ever been able to take from me. I know that as you meditate daily on your truths, you will be reminded of how unique and special God designed you.

The amazing thing about being you is that there are gifts and talents that only you can contribute to the world. There are ideas, thoughts, songs, and dreams in your head that no one else can think. You are powerful, and your ability to dream can allow things that you thought you could only imagine to come to life.