Agape love is the kind of love that chooses to love the unlovable and unlovely, not because we deserve it, but because it is God’s nature to love – in fact, HE IS LOVE (1 John 4:8) Agape love comes from the presence of the Holy Spirit in our lives and is not based on feelings, attraction, or even familial connection.
The third form of love from the Greek is one that many people are familiar with. Eros love is the type of love that refers to the “passionate love” that is between two people that are “in love.” We get the word “erotic” from Eros. Eros is also the word that expresses sexual love or feelings between people who are physically attracted to one another. While Eros love is familiar to all of us, it is the one love that requires the most self-control and intentionality to keep it within the boundaries that it belongs.
Phileo love is the form of love that exists between friends and means “affectionate regard.” While we may not always carry Phileo love perfectly towards one another, it is the heart of Jesus for us to love one another well. In John 13:35, Jesus said, “Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples”. That’s pretty straight talk right there – our Phileo love for one another is not just about us, it’s about the example that we carry and present to the world.
Let’s start on an adventure of understanding what the Word says about the different types of love. Storge love is the familial love, often referred to as the empathy bond. It is the love found between family members, and those that are bonded together by chance – not choice.
Gratitude defined is a feeling of appreciation or thanks. It's interesting that gratitude is defined as a feeling. Our feelings provide a compass for our actions (good or bad!) and are triggered by our thoughts. So we can choose to think grateful thoughts, which will create grateful feelings and perhaps even lead to actions of gratitude towards ourselves, God and others!