As we continue our discussion on the different types of love this month, we want to focus this week on Phileo love. Phileo love is the form of love that exists between friends and means “affectionate regard.”
You know that friend of yours that is more like a family member? The friend that your kids call “Aunt” or “Uncle” and are surprised much later in life to realize that they’re actually not related to this “Aunt” or “Uncle”? That’s an example of Phileo love.
The best biblical example of Phileo love is the care and affection between David and Jonathan, Saul’s son. 1 Samuel 18:1-3 says, “After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself….and Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him.” Phileo love is the type of love that exists within community and between believers in Jesus.
While we may not always carry Phileo love perfectly towards one another, it is the heart of Jesus for us to love one another well. In John 13:35, Jesus said, “Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples”. That’s pretty straight talk right there – our Phileo love for one another is not just about us, it’s about the example that we carry and present to the world.
This week, we want to leave you with a small, five-minute challenge that gives you an opportunity to put the Phileo form of love to work in your own life…
Phileo Love Challenge: Make a list of the 3 friends that you have the most Phileo love for. Take a moment to send them a text or email to let them know how grateful you are for their friendship and then say a prayer, thanking God for the gift of friendship.